Remembering Friends from Memory

Here is a great little project… (with a tip of the cap to Derek Sivers):

Try to write down all the friends you’ve ever had – from memory.



No address book, no phone, no Facebook.  Just memory.

Remember all those people you met and connected with that made a difference in your life. It’s amazing how many are still in your head:
•        childhood friends you haven’t seen since you were 8
•        teachers
•        old crushes and flings
•        random encounters with great conversation
There are some you’ll remember who don’t remember you. (There are some you’ve forgotten who remember you well.)

I did mine as they came to me.  No real rhyme or reason.  I tried to go chronologically, but failed miserably.  What a trip.
Some, unfortunately, are dead.  Some might be.  Some of them have had their names changed.  Some really dislike me.

Some day in the future I’ll be dead, and hopefully this will still be posted.

To those listed here: I remember you off the top of my head, think of you fondly, and you permanently affected me, even if we haven’t talked in years. If you find this some day when Googling your name, contact me to say hello.

My Family
John Hogan
Carole Ketnourath
Andy Chi
Brian Dautarich
Brian Dominick
Dan Romig
Greg Fedigan
Nick Mancini
Kevin Pilipcsak
Ashley Musso (now Nangle)
Lauren Musso
Meghan Burnett
Stephanie Hutchinson
Claire Fefer
Emily Reutlinger
Diana Dilger
Meg Larche
Jeremy Cornue
Jeremy Leone
Troy Churney
Trevor Stroman
Frank Lomascolo
Brian Festa
Terry Lattimore
Brandon Shaw
Mr. Martin
Mrs. Bandas
Mrs. Cunliffe
Mike Mucedola
Tim Mirabito
Chris Hogan
Kevin Hogan
Tim Guzalak
Brianne Guzewicz
Anne Marie Purdy
Jamie Curtis
Liz Tabone
Charlie Mace
Jaime Collella
Amanda Chabot
Leanne Deacon
Anna Nellenback
Stacey Longley
Kevin Pearce
Ken Lumb
Katy Lumb
Mike Mills
Anna Capacefelo
Tracey Dare
Erin McKeon
Brian McKeon
Jason Colavito
John Malona
Jason Pollack
Christian Long
Tim Seamons
Leron Richards
Sol Kuckelman
Josh Strom
Cam Stewart
David Jacobsen
Andrew Houston
Alex Houston
Chris Klavins
Ashley Bedard
Alissa Nagy
Desmond Alexander
Aaron Morton
Jamin Alexander
Andrew Forbes
Ari Vigoda
Ed Durante
Kevin Neely
Kenny Hadden
Mark Anania
Matt Brogan
Ram Parimi
Andrew Murphy
Andy Kilpatrick
Tim Swanson
Kevin Corcoran
Brendan Mahoney
Matt Blocker-Glynn
Alex Cabal
Jon Connary
Dawn Brown
Brandi Cahill
Olivia Drake
Susan Cohen
Parker Smathers
Brandon Murphy
Marlin Nabors
Brendan Murpy
Jerry Russell
Julie Samere
Jon Palmer
Kellie-Anne Smith
Brooks Lustig
Sue Salles
Jeremiah Jester
Mike Lebeiko
Ryan Dalton
Brian Jones
Ryan Linstroth
Dan Bloom
Stephanie Quainoo
Sherry Sybertz
Maureen Isleib
John Maher
Amy Miller
Sarah Lazare
Pat Collier
Andy Collier
Joe Plis
Casey Galbelly
Cortney Geherin
Casey McCormick
Jared McCarthy
Sharon Blumenstock
Matt Angier
Lizzy Angier
Meghan Angier
Sarah Whitaker
Liz Hogan
Chip Freeman
Al Jogengen
Mary Sue Johengen
Maggie Johengen
Mariko Maeda
Mike Ciaccio
Mr. Tenity
Mrs. Reutlinger
Jessica Blum
Patrick Reihlman
Patrick Dougherty
Cheryl Brodowski
Callum Douglas
Stephanie Pruitt
Martin Wilshut
Halvor Sakshaug
Sean Ferris
Megan Clark
Josh Smith
Brooke Dayton-Dieterich
Steve Dekovich
Matt Chaelnick
Jason Checkanski
Rishi Barran
Tom Crawford
Becky Grant
Karen Sidor
Amanda Fredericks
Amanda Burgette
Dan Labonte
Krystal Gayle-O’Neill
Alex Arrango
Rachel Tuttle
Stephanie Nixon
Stephanie Austin
Angela Davis
Becky Starkenberg
Rosanne Ibanez
Jason Hogan
Crystal Goodman
Kedrick Perry
Leslie-Anne
Becca Garrison
Missy Jenkins
AhDream Smith
Leah Coe
Ariel Schwartz
Andrew Leung
Jim Napoli
Holly Deering
Ed Warwick
Sarah Jean Kelly
Allyson Rea
Jen Varrone
Lori Hill Orth
Aaron Chung
Rob Yip
Javier Cabezas
Jose Rodriguez
Veronica Rivera
Daniel Markham
Crystal Bentley
Will Schaffer
Eric Carbaugh
Ashley Hoey
Jackie Borza
Mark McDonald
Kyle Beaudette
JD Forrest
Grier McCain
Scott Backer
Jayna Watkins
Marcie Erving
Katherine Michalik
Kate Mason
Kelly Schneider
Christie Lucarelli
Jeff Gavin
Elisa Del Valle
Tanya Purdy
Nick Goebel
Todd Porter
Josh Hamilton
Kate Melton
Lindsay Elliott
Jenn Grove
Kate Makinson
Doug McNabb
Andrew Brewer
Katie King
Trevor West
Chris Cruz
Christian Jackson
Phill Rhamey
Dom Hall
Liliana Carrasquillo
Ryan Anderson
Tabitha Beck
Amanda Stankus
Cara Engel
Dan Mason
Laurie Pollack
Randy Tarkington
Kennedy Odede
Yaeka Katsuta
Kristin Kyrka
Doug Chiarello
Cheryl-Ann Hagner
Marina Melendez
Amanda Erekson
Desiree Hoskins
Laura Chaussee
Maggie Pearce
Joel Oerter
Mike Sciola
John Maher
Jennifer Snyder
Joyce Walter
Christian West
Morgan Emmett
Bevin Connery
Marcus Ingram
Robin Nicholson
Andrew Klein
Samantha Klein
Art Zamora
Noel Garrett
Matt Miliken
Jessica Sims
Dave Abdallah
David Sims

To those not listed: My memory is far from perfect.  Sorry!

Here’s to Achieving in 2011

2011 is going to be a great year.  I plan on accomplishing a lot this year, but as of right now I don’t know what those things are going to be.  But a I do know that I am going to do three things:

LA La Land

I WILL make it out to LA to visit my best friend.  Mark it down folks.  Although I don’t have a ticket yet, I’m making it happen.

I’m finally going to pay off my student loans in early 2011 (if all goes to plan), and I will finally have some extra cash to spend and make some more trips.  I don’t have any excuse either, as I have a ton of time saved up at work to take off.  My buddy just needs to find a good weekend as he is a little busy.

This will feel great.  It is always fun getting together with him.  I feel obligated to go.  So once I get there, I’ll be able to not feel bad every time the topic comes up.

My Personal CareerBuilder

Professionally, I will come a little closer to what I want to do next.  Whether that involves heading down the path that I am already on, taking the fork in the road, or walking along the median and kind of do both.  It’s been 30 years, and I am going to make some sort of decision in this area, meaning, I’m ready to kick it into high gear.

Building Foundations

I definitely plan on continuing to build relationships.  Interacting with other people is what makes my world go round.  There is going to be a lot of change in this area in the coming year (at least within my day to day dealings with people) as I foresee and have already seen a few people move on to other greener pastures.  I am going to have to get to know a whole new batch of people.

Not that I feel that different from being 29, but 30 definitely is a milestone event.  It has gotten me thinking about where I’ve been and where I want to go.  I need to be more serious about my romantic relationships.  I have very much enjoyed my time with the people who I have spent it with, but I definitely need to pump the gas a little in these relationships.  I’ve been idling a lot recently, and I don’t really like that feeling.  It also doesn’t give the other person in the relationship a happy feeling either.  There needs to be some more forward progress.

If there are problems or issues, I need to deal with them rather than hope they go away.

Bottom Line

The 3 things that I want to achieve in 2011 are getting out to LA to see my friend, figure out what path I want to take in my career, and build stronger relationships.

Here’s the achieving them!

Note: This is my response to the #reverb10 prompt for December 28. #reverb10 is  an annual event and online initiative to reflect on your year and manifest what’s next. Each day has a prompt. Today’s prompt is: “Achieve.  What’s the thing you most want to achieve next year?  How do you imagine you’ll feel when you get it?  Free?  Happy?  Complete?  Blissful?  Write that feeling down.  Then, brainstorm 10 things you can do, or 10 new thoughts you can think, in order to experience that feeling today.

A Photo of Me (And a Few of my Friends)

December 25 – Photo – a present to yourself

Sift through all the photos of you from the past year. Choose one that best captures you; either who you are, or who you strive to be. Find the shot of you that is worth a thousand words. Share the image, who shot it, where, and what it best reveals about you.

(Author: Tracey Clark)

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The paparazzi (aka, my mom) shot this one.  We had just finished my brother and his wife’s rehearsal dinner in Baton Rouge.  I have been talking a lot about it the last couple days, but family and friends are very important to me.  This picture sort of captures that, but more so than what it captures are the memories it brings back for me.

That was a wonderful time.  If I could go back in time and relive 3 or 4 days that happened in 2010, this would probably be the 3 to 4 days that I would choose (though, the following day would probably be the day that I would pick if I only had to pick one day).

What does it reveal about me?

For one thing, I think everyone in this picture is having a great time.  We are all laid back and care free.  Good times have been had and we are about to head out and have some more.  Specifically pertaining to me though, is how laid back I am.  I think that shows in the picture, but is doubly true in real life.

Second, I look good in my pinstripe navy suit and yellow tie.  At this point, I had been working out consistently for 3 to 4 months and am very proud of what I had accomplished in that time.  My health and fitness are very important to me.

There are a thousand and one things I could say about this photo.  For now, it was an amazing time during this year that I will remember forever.

High School & College Reunions: Not as Painful as they once were?

Facebook

“So what have you been up to for the past ten years?”

I love going to reunions.  My family has one every year.  I even go to my college reunion on off years (i.e. not on the 5’s or 10’s).  In fact, we just had my high school reunion this past weekend.  It is just a lot of fun to see people whom you aren’t really that close to and get an update on how they are doing.

But I hate the “What have you been up to?” question.  I realize the need to find some sort of common ground, but many people don’t really know when to stop talking.  I don’t mean this in a bad way, as if I can’t handle when people keep talking; however, it is kind of rude to stop a story in the middle just because I want to move on.  There are a select few that I really want to know how life is and what is going on.  I just want a quick summary for most people.  If I am interested, I’ll ask follow up questions.

There was a great shirt idea floating around that my best friend and I talked about beforehand.  It would be a plain shirt with 4 lines.  On one line would be your name.  Another line would be where you live.  A third line would be your job.  And a fourth line would be “Other”.  That last line could be used for “I have a 2 year old child” or I ride motorcycles for fun”.  This would be just something to eliminate the awkward “getting to know you” stage.

New Media

But this is the beauty of Facebook.

Because many of the people at reunions may be your friend on facebook, you might have checked out their page and had a general idea of what they were up to.  It eliminates some of the awkward, “where are you now?” conversations and people are familiar with what others are up to far faster than they would have been 10 or 15 years ago.

One of the people who I talked to this weekend said that she didn’t look at her yearbook before the reunion.  I’ll be honest, I glanced at it, but I didn’t go on a full out study session with it.  I didn’t need to.  75% of the people who showed up are people who I would have known or just had to get a quick refresher on who they were on Facebook.  The downward trend of yearbooks are a whole other topic all together, but hopefully you can see why.  Facebook provides a yearbook type setting, where your page can be constantly updated.  Your peers can see what you are up to NOW, and you can more easily have a jumping off point in conversations.

So instead of those clunky catch up conversations, you can jump right in.  The reunions I have been to have been a blast, and new media has played a part in making it so.